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a spanish person laughing or a german person during sex???
Finnish person struggling to remember what they were about to say next
polish person trying to get themself noticed
portuguese person trying to hush other people
Chinese person trying to do calculations
Norwegian person sighting over something stupid he just did
All right, I’m gonna try to answer this the best I can. Anyone who has anything to add may do so because I know my answer will be lacking.
The word queer itself is meant as an umbrella term for anyone who doesn’t fall under the categories of hetereosexuality (and the word itself means strange or odd so I find that it’s kind of offensive to call someone queer personally; I don’t like the word but I understand why people who fall under this umbrella term use it).
Asexuality is a deviation from heterosexuality, therefore can fall under the umbrella term of queer. That being said, if you don’t like the term queer, you can tell them not to call you queer, that you consider it an insult as I’m sure many people do.
Queer is an umbrella term for non-heterosexuality. That said, it can (and for a while, definitely was solely) used as a slur. Context matters here. If you think the person is using it as a slur, that’s not okay. Often, if someone knows you’re not heterosexual, but they’re not sure what you identify as, they might use ‘queer.’
For the most part, the LGBTQIA+ community has embraced the term queer, just as they have “gay” and “trans*” (“trans*” was derived from “transvestite,” which is now considered a slur). It’s basically, as the two lovely people above me have explained, a term that means “not heterosexual.” This could also reply to romantic identities as well, however. For instance: A person who is biromantic but heterosexual is still considered queer. (It’s up for debate whether this example person is then heterosexual with one gender and asexual with the other, and everyone has different opinions on that.”
Asexuality in and of itself is up for debate in both the straight ans queer communities, unfortunately. The mindset here being that heterosexuality is the “default,” and asexuals aren’t really asexual because is they didn’t identify as ace, they’d be straight. This is bullshit, plain and simple. I would advise you to claim the title of queer and wear it proudly, if that is something you’re comfortable with., because that will not only discourage those who call you queer as an insult, but also those who suspect that asexuality doesn’t belong in the LGBTQIA+ community.
Sorry for the rant. I hope this helps, nonnie.
OH WAIT ONE MORE THING I”M SORRY
If anyone gives you shit about being ace, kindly point out that there are entire cultures that are 100% sex-repulsed asexual and the only reason they suffer through sex is to continue the population. People like this exist everywhere in the world. EVERYWHERE. It just so happens that these groups of people are more spread out in first world countries.
((This is an anthropologically PROVEN fact, and anyone who argues against this FACT is wrong. Laugh at them. Walk away.))
I don’t disagree, but I would like to quietly point out that putting an asterisk after trans has been used in a transmisogynistic way in the past. Also, trans has Latin roots, I believe, and can be paired with gender to be transgender. That’s where the T part of the acronym comes from. Trans does not come from transvestite, which literally just means “cross dressing.” Crossdressing is still a thing, and some people still identify as transvestites without identifying with any kind of transgender identity. There are cis men who dress up in a feminine fashion because that is a thing they like to do, and cis women who dress up in masculine fashion. Sometimes these people are part of the drag scene. They might not be transgender, but they still might identify as transvestites or crossdressers.
I respectfully disagree, as someone who is very invested in the local trans community. First of all, the asterisk after “trans” denoted the many different types of trans* people: Transgender, transsexual, genderqueer, two spirit, etc. whether or not idly has been used as a slur in the past is of no concern. The language has changed since then, and it is not only acceptable, but encouraged to use the asterisk. Leaving it off excludes non-binary peoples of all types (including myself, a genderfluid person) and contributes to trans phobia and erasure. Yes, it is possible for trans* peoples to be transphobic, just as it is possible for homosexual peoples to be biphobic, acephobic, etc.
You are correct in saying that “trans” has Latin roots, as does “cis.” In biology, they mean “far” and “close” respectively. But we do not use them in that sense when referring to people. We use “trans” and “cis” to mean “different” and “same,” similar to “hetero” and “homo.”
Lastly, THE WORD TRANSVESTITE IS A SLUR. Do NOT under any circumstances call a trans* person a transvestite. As far as those people you mentioned who embrace the title, maybe they are trying to embrace it and reclaim it as their own, as the black American community has done with n*****.
Also, being a drag queen makes you a drag queen. Crossdressing means you enjoy crossdressing (this person may be femme or otherwise, but that is neither of relevance in this discussion, nor does it make them trans*). There is much debate over whether these people belong in the trans* community, but as it stands, unless these drag queens or crossdressers identify as a gender that is not congruent with their assigned sex, they are not trans* and thus not relevant in this discussion.
I’m on mobile, so replying to this was difficult, but if I left anything out or if you would like to continue this conversation further, feel free to message me.